I can help because I’ve been in your shoes.
Why I Became The Break Up Bestie
Hi! My name is Kendra Allen, aka your Break Up Bestie. I started Break Up Bestie because it was something I really needed at a few points in my life. I have unfortunately had to experience a very toxic and controlling relationship, an abusive relationship, the crazy codependent relationship where all the guy wanted to do was get married (I broke up with him and he was engaged to another girl 2 months later). The non committed guy, the guy who was in between jobs and ended up moving in with me after a couple weeks- pretty much you name it I’ve gone through it. Not to say I’ve seen it all by any means but I have been able to gather a wide variety of experiences- and that has in turn allowed me to help a wide variety of people.
The tipping point for me came with a devastating break up in 2015. The one where I felt like I was going to die, that knocked the wind out of me. I was in so much pain that I asked EVERYONE for help, and I’m not kidding I called women I barely knew that had gone through break ups and asked them to coffee. I would take any advice that someone gave me, and I tried EVERYTHING. And, I made it through to the other side.
Since that break up in 2015, I started to get asked by a lot of people in my social circle for advice on how I got through it. I gathered so much amazing advice, writing prompts, books, songs, etc. during my process that I loved then being able to turn it around and help others. Giving advice and helping others was such a key part of my own healing process and had healed me to the point where I am now.
After looking through at the lack of break up help online, I wanted to start something that would teach others how to survive, heal, and thrive through their break ups. Break Up Bestie is about HEALING, not getting over your ex in 28 days or how to get your ex back but about giving you practical tips, actions, and tools to be able to let go of your ex and leave with peace of mind.
WHAT BREAK UP BESTIE IS....
A comfort tool to help validate your feelings, regardless of what they are
A reminder that after a break up, the direction to go is forward not backwards (aka no texting or hanging out with your ex)
A way to reframe this sad time in your life, and to help you see that being single is the most awesome time to grow and get to know yourself. We’ll encourage you to try new things, reconnect with old friends, and really make the most out of this time.
Someone that will continuously tell you that everything is ok, you’re right where you’re supposed to be, and that you will feel better and love again.
A guide to help you get to yourself again, determine what you liked and didn’t like in your last relationship, and eventually once you’re healed get into a much more upgraded relationship.
So whether you’re fresh out of a break up, whether you’re still in a relationship but you’re tossing back and forth of whether or not you should still be in the relationship, whether you just got out of a 10 day or 10 year relationship, or whether you’ve been single for a while but you just need something extra- this is the place for you.
