Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast

Every Tuesday I have a new episode of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast where I talk about a different topic as it relates to break ups, healing your heartbreak, growing in your single life, and moving into happier and healthier relationships.

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Heal Your Heartbreak Episodes

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#244 Rediscovering Your Sexuality Post Breakup with Dr. Tara

Today on the podcast I have sex and relationship expert Dr. Tara. She is a tenured professor, podcast host, and co-host of Celebs Go Dating. In this episode we talk about how to use your breakup as a time to rediscover your sexual identity, how to get more comfortable talking about sex with future partners, what to do if you feel like your toxic ex is the best sex you'll ever have, and much more.

Follow Dr. Tara on Instagram and listen to her podcast Luvbites by Dr. Tara

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#243 How to Ask For Help

Across all episodes of this podcast I talk about how important it is to ask for help from the people and resources around you, and in this episode we're talking about how to ask for help. Which may seem obvious to some but if you're like me asking for help can be extremely difficult, so in this episode we're talking about why you need to be specific in your asks, how to ask in a way that will serve you, and what kinds of things you can be asking for help on.

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#242 How to Connect Even When You're Feeling Lonely with Rachel DeAlto

In today's episode I'm chatting with Rachel DeAlto- a communication and relatability expert. Rachel is the author of the book Relatable How to Connect with Anyone Anywhere Even if it Scares you. We talk about connection, how a lack of communication and connection leads to breakups, how to find connection when you're going through a breakup even when you miss your ex, finding connection through dating, and we talk a lot about dating as a single mom and the advantages this brings.

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#241 Listener Episode Ex Ended Up With Your Friend

In today's listener episode I'm interviewing a woman in her late 20s from London who is 2 years out from her 6 month relationship. Her and her ex met in a very important part of her life which is gymnastics, they were on the same team and had to navigate how to approach this moving forward after the breakup. We also talk about how she handled finding out her ex ended up with her friend just a few short months after the breakup, how she noticed the self abandonment that took place within her relationship, and much more.

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#240 How to Deal with a Narcissist with Rebecca Zung

In today's expert episode I'm interviewing Rebecca Zung who is a top negotiation expert, highly successful lawyer, and an expert on how to deal with narcissists and high conflict personalities. In this episode we discuss how narcissists operate, how to disarm a narcissist in your life, how to think about narcissists in a different way, and much more.

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#239 Self Compassion IS Productive

In today's episode I focus on the topic of self-compassion as a tool for healing from breakups. We discuss the fact that self-compassion is crucial for recovery, even more so than simply taking action. We also talk about the common misconception that self-love only develops as a result of working on oneself, how a lack of self-compassion can lead to over-exertion in trying to “fix” oneself, how everyone deserves self-compassion, even if they believe they were at fault for the breakup, tools and mantras for helping with self compassion and much more!

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#238 Processing Relationship Anxiety with Dr. Nicole Cain

In today's expert episode I'm talking with Dr. Nicole Cain, a leading expert in trauma-informed clinical psychology and we're talking all about anxiety, more specifically relationship anxiety. We talk about how to process the anxiety about your past relationship- how to know what to own, and what isn't yours to own. We talk about when/if to disclose past relationship anxiety to someone new you're dating, how to deal with anxiety in the moment, and much more. Nicole's book Panic Proof is out TODAY so be sure to order it at this link.

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#237 Signs You’re Starting to Recover

In today's solo episode I talk about what it looks like when you start recovering from your breakup. I talk about what most people get wrong on what it means to be over your ex, I talk about why it's so important to consistently reflect back on how far you've come in your breakup, I give over ten different signs that you're moving on from your ex, and much more.

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#236 When You Lose Your Absolute S#%T at Your Ex

In today's solo episode I'm talking about what happens when you given in to those obsessions and don't hold your tongue when it comes to your ex. Whether you called them a dozen times in a row, sent a message you wish you hadn't, said something mean during the breakup, or whatever happened that you wish you could take back we're talking about how to handle it in this episode. We talk about how to give yourself grace, how to forgive yourself, how to proceed with your ex, and how to prevent that from happening again.

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#235 Listener Story UPDATE! Sara Finds Her Voice (and partner)

Today is the first of hopefully many but today is our first listener story update! Sara first came on the show 3 years ago (episode #78) and I've been following her on Instagram ever since and wanted to have her back on the show to share her journey since we left off. We talk about what Sara learned from her breakup, how she changed her approach to dating, we talk a lot about practicing setting boundaries and how it makes it easier, feeling safe and secure in relationships, and so much more!

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#234 Listener Episode: Ex Drops Off the Face of the Earth with Katelyn

In today's listener episode I'm interviewing Katelyn who after going through the separation of a long term marriage got into a very beautiful and healthy relationship of 6 months. One day she got a text in the middle of her work day that said "I can't do this anymore" and that was it. We talk about how Katelyn dealt with the early days of devastation, how she reached a level of acceptance, her most helpful tools and much more.

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#233 Was Your Breakup the Right Decision?

In today's episode I'm answering the question that many of you are probably asking yourself often which is, was the breakup the right decision? This episode not only applies to those of you who are questioning your decision to end your relationship AND those of you who feel like your ex made the mistake of ending the relationship and will realize it any day now (we're all guilty of thinking that way). I also talk about how you can trust that it was the right decision and continue moving on even if you feel doubtful.

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#232 What It Looks Like to Do the Work with Miss Diamond Ring

In today's episode I'm talking with Michelle Demaree who is known on Instagram as @missdiamondring. In our interview we talk about the extremely tough decision she made to end the relationship with her long time partner and her child's father and her journey to healing. We talk about all the different things she threw herself into to heal, the community she built along the way, dating in her 40s as a single mom in LA, how she built her business post breakup, how she found her new husband, and much more!

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#231 Why Breakups are so Hard with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

In today's episode I interview Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby about breakup recovery. I learned SO much in this interview as we discussed why breakups are so hard, the different stages of a breakup, how to navigate obsessive thinking about your ex, what's going on in our brains as we fight to get over someone, and so much more. I highly recommend everyone goes out and gets her book Exaholics and check out Dr. Lisa's podcast and her other offerings on her website.

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#229 Relationship OCD with Sheva Rajaee

In today's episode I interview therapist Sheva Rajaee. Sheva is an expert in anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), and specifically relationship OCD which is what we discuss in this episode. In our interview we talk about what OCD is, what's the difference between relationship OCD and anxious attachment style, Sheva's thoughts on soulmates and "the one", how to work through relationship OCD, and more. Be sure to check out her book Relationship OCD!

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#228 Getting Stuck in Breakup Limbo

In today's solo episode I talk about what it means to get stuck in breakup limbo or breakup purgatory. We discuss why it is so harmful to get stuck in this place, why it causes so much anxiety, and why even though it's so painful it's a place we'd prefer to be because then we don't have to come to terms with the relationship actually being over. I also talk about what to do if you find yourself in breakup limbo and why it's so important to reclaim your control and your power.

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#227 How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind with Todd Baratz

In today's episode I talk with author, therapist, and speaker Todd Baratz (@yourdiagnonsense). We talk about his new book How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind. We talked a lot about the ideals that social media gives us for relationships and how so much of that is not true, we talk about how certain terms are overused on social media like narcissism and what that has meant for people in relationships, we talk about how clinginess is not a bad thing, how to harness your pain as you’re going through a break up and why break ups hurt so badly, and much more.

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#226 Feelings & Your Nervous System with Jen Mann and Karden

Today I interview a duo, Jennifer Mann and Karden Rabin- founders of Somia and experts on holistic nervous system regulation. In this interview we talk about the physical sensations that come with not feeling our feelings, the difference between thinking about feelings and feeling feelings. Karden leads us through a beautiful visualization exercise leading to where you feel feelings in your body, we talk about the nervous system and why it's so trendy right now, and much more.

Be sure to order your copy of The Secret Language of the Body and follow Jennifer and Karden on Instagram.

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#225 Radical Confidence with Lisa Bilyeu

In today's episode I interview entrepreneur, podcaster, author, and speaker Lisa Bilyeu on all things confidence. We talk about how important a partner can be in either fueling or draining your energy, why breakups can be such a drain on confidence, how to actually increase your confidence through competency, why breakups can be so powerful, and much more. Be sure to check out Lisa's book Radical Confidence!

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