Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast
Every Tuesday I have a new episode of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast where I talk about a different topic as it relates to break ups, healing your heartbreak, growing in your single life, and moving into happier and healthier relationships.
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#86: Listener Story: Long Distance Relationship + Ghosting
On today's listener story, I got the opportunity to talk with Lindsey about her experience with a long distance relationship that ended in ghosting. Lindsey shares about the pain associated with her story, the actions she took throughout the situation, and how she used the tools she had available to get through her breakup gracefully to overcome such a challenging time in her life.
#85: Feeling lonely vs. missing your ex
On today's episode, we explore the difference between feeling lonely vs. missing your ex. It's completely normal to miss your ex following a break up, but it's important to separate what you miss about your ex versus what you just miss about relationships. Throughout this episode, we will dig into identifying what you miss about your ex, the voids left by the break up, and really help you identify and distinguish the difference between missing your ex, and missing being in a relationship.
#84: Single is Your Superpower with Case Kenny
Welcome to another expert interview with the highly requested guest of the day, Case Kenny! He is the host of the New Mindset, Who Dis? Podcast, author of The New Mindset Journal, Single is Your Superpower Journal, and the Unbothered Journal. I brought Case on originally to talk about the topic Single is Your Superpower, because its such an impactful term that many of us don't fully believe in. Society tells us a lot of stories and assumptions about being single, which can be very harmful in learning how to live and love our life single. In this interview we talk mostly about mindset and mindfulness, and how in order to get to know yourself you have to be in touch with yourself in gaining self worth and finding things that make you feel good.
#83 Can you be friends with an ex?
I was asked this week to do a podcast on being friends with your ex, and with this being a topic I talk about so much I couldn't believe I didn't have an episode dedicated to this, so here we are! This is not a guide on how to be friends with an ex, but more of why I believe it's challenging to find that balance of going from being in a romantic relationship to just friends. Throughout this episode I talk more about different reasons why in the event of a break up, the request of "let's stay friends" comes up, and why I don't think it's a good idea to pursue these friendships with ex's if you're trying to heal.
#82 Listener Story: Dealing with Substance Abuse & Mental Health.
On today's listener episode, I interviewed Alexa who bravely shared her story with us about being in a relationship with someone who struggled with addiction. I know this unique episode is going to resonate with so many of you, and is such a great resource to hear a story first hand from someone who has experienced this in a relationship. Alexa shares how she has navigated the healing process and all of the tools, processes, and perspective shifts that she's been able to experience through this heartbreak.
#81 Was I asking for too much?
In today's episode I cover the question that often follows break ups of "was I asking for too much?". This commonly presents itself across my social media pages, and it stems from the idea that you feel as if you were too needy, or asking too much from your partner and that is why you are currently experiencing this heartbreak. I really wanted to clear this topic up, because 99% of the time you were not asking for too much, you were just asking the wrong person.
#80: Divorce & Coparenting with Kate Anthony
In this episode, I brought in Kate Anthony who is the host of the Divorce Survival Guide Podcast, and a certified divorce coach. Kate works specifically with women who have children who are going through divorces. She helps women to decide whether or not they should stay in their marriages or walk away, heal through a divorce, and helps them exit the relationship with a sense of grace. This episode is packed full of practical tips, and so many great tools. If you are someone who is thinking about going through a divorce, in the midst of a divorce, or well on your way through a divorce, this is the episode for you!
#79 Stages of a Breakup
Throughout this episode I'm going to be talking about the stages you might experience in a breakup. DISCLAIMER - these are not in any order, because I don't want someone listening to feel like something is wrong with them, or feeling anything incorrectly. There is no right or wrong way to feel after a breakup and no straight lines associated with each situation. Each breakup is so different for everyone and I can't say for certain exactly how you're going to feel. You might feel all of these stages in a week, a day, completely out of order, or some not at all. Breakups aren't universal, but talking about the possibilities of emotions that might come is important for healing.
#78: Listener Story- "We're Just on 2 Different Pages..."
In today's listener episode I interviewed Sara, who is a pediatric ICU doctor, and comedian. Her relationship was 9 months, but in that time she still had to go through a tremendous heartbreak. Her breakup was triggered by the fact that she was ready to start talking about that next step, and her ex made it clear that wasn't something he was willing or ready to do. I was so inspired by her story of healing, and there we're so many things she did that blew me away and how proactive she was in tackling her breakup. Even if this story doesn't completely match yours, you will get ideas and inspiration on how real life people deal with breakups, and will remind you that things pass and you're never alone.
#77 Taking Breaks vs. Breaking Up
What does it mean to take a break from a relationship? On this episode I discuss what a break is, why they can be hurtful, and different reasons why I feel like you shouldn't take a break from your relationship. This episode is not to say breaks have never worked but I think there needs to be some stipulations and objectives set around having a break!
#76 Jaime Zuckerman on Trauma Bonds
Today I brought back and interviewed Dr. Jaime Zuckerman who is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and media expert on all things therapy and mental health. In this episode we talk all about trauma bonds - what is a trauma bond, why do they happen, what are the underlying circumstances that lead to a trauma bond. We also discuss why trauma bonds are so hard to break, and once they are broken and you come out of that relationship why it feels so hard and so painful.
#75: Why You’re Scared of the No Contact Rule
The No Contact Rule is not an easy thing to do. It can be challenging and painful, but it’s about the long term healing process. In this episode I want to help you combat some of your fears around the No Contact Rule by first validating them, and then giving you a new perspective on it.
#74 Listener Story: Healing from Infidelity
In today's listener story episode I interview Dayna who was in a relationship for 5 years when she found out her partner was having an affair. In this episode she talks about how she left her partner (with an incredible amount of boundaries), how she moved cities, and rebuilt her life. Dayna's story is such an incredible example of boundaries, self love, willingness to do the work, and that you really can heal from any of kind of break up.
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#73: The Journey to Self Confidence
In today's episode I interviewed Raeann Langas who is the co-founder of Confident Collective, curve model, and body activist and we talk all about her journey to finding self confidence. I asked her if she thought everyone was born confident and then what happens along the way that lowers confidence. We talked about ways she was able to grow her confidence and find a new relationship with herself after a really long term relationship ended, and so much more!
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#72: Reclaiming the Relationship with Yourself
In today's episode I interview Intimacy Coach Jules Webber as she shares her incredible story of walking away from her marriage and reclaiming the relationship she has with herself. In this episode we discuss the difference between being single by default and then single by choice, we talk about walking away from friendships, the power of rock bottom, some tangible ways to improve the relationship you have with yourself, and we also talk about Jules' 9 month "man-pause" where she's choosing to develop the relationship with herself.
To learn more about Jules follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jules.webber/
And check out her website! https://www.juleswebber.com/
#71: How to Feel Your Feelings
You hear a lot when you're going through something like a break up that you need to just "feel your feelings." But what does that even mean? How do you make sure you're taking the time to feel your feelings? That's what I'm talking about in today's episode. I discuss creating regular practices that put you in touch with your feelings, how to nurture your feelings instead of judging them, getting to know what makes you feel emotional and more!
#70: Listener Story: Ghosting + Dishonesty
Today is the first of the new series on the podcast where I interview real listeners of the podcast and have them share their break up stories. I'm kicking it off with sisters Gabby + Meagan who after going through break ups decided to start a company called Mooing On where they curate boxes of products to help women who are going through heartbreak. They share about their experience getting ghosted and being with someone emotionally unavailable and also share about their current experience where one sister just got married and the other is going through a divorce after dealing with lying and infidelity.
Today is the first of the new series on the podcast where I interview real listeners of the podcast and have them share their break up stories. I'm kicking it off with sisters Gabby + Meagan who after going through break ups decided to start a company called Mooing On where they curate boxes of products to help women who are going through heartbreak. They share about their experience getting ghosted and being with someone emotionally unavailable and also share about their current experience where one sister just got married and the other is going through a divorce after dealing with lying and infidelity.
To learn more about Mooing On and to get a discount head to this link to get your own break up box! https://mooingon.com/?ref=breakupbestie
#69: Getting Stuck in the Cycle of Breaking Up + Getting Back Together
In today's episode I talk all about getting stuck in the toxic cycle of breaking up and getting back together over and over and over again. We have all had that friend (or been that friend) that no one ever knows if they're with their ex or not. In the episode I talk about why it's so toxic and damaging to get stuck in that cycle, some ways to escape the cycle if you're stuck, and ways to prevent yourself from doing that if you're just out of a break up.
In today's episode I talk all about getting stuck in the toxic cycle of breaking up and getting back together over and over and over again. We have all had that friend (or been that friend) that no one ever knows if they're with their ex or not. In the episode I talk about why it's so toxic and damaging to get stuck in that cycle, some ways to escape the cycle if you're stuck, and ways to prevent yourself from doing that if you're just out of a break up.
#68: Embracing Abundance in Relationships
In today's episode I interview best-selling author, international speaker, and hugely successful business owner Danette May. In our interview Danette shares her life's refining moments including going through a divorce with $47 to her name- and how she turned her mess into a message that has impacted millions of people. We talk about how to embrace abundance instead of settling, we talk about how you attract based on your energy levels, we talk about the power of rock bottom and so much more!
In today's episode I interview best-selling author, international speaker, and hugely successful business owner Danette May. In our interview Danette shares her life's refining moments including going through a divorce with $47 to her name- and how she turned her mess into a message that has impacted millions of people. We talk about how to embrace abundance instead of settling, we talk about how you attract based on your energy levels, we talk about the power of rock bottom and so much more!
If you purchase Danette's new book Embrace Abundance you'll get a free ticket to her virtual event all about relationships: https://danettemay.com/embraceabundancebook/
To follow Danette: @thedanettemay
#67 Whose fault was it?
One of the things we can get obsessed about after a break up is trying to figure out whose fault it was. We can sometimes think that by figuring out whose to blame it will make the break up hurt less and make us feel more in control. In this episode I talk about why we always want to be able to point the finger at someone (even if it's at us), why it's not actually helpful to place blame, and the difference between pointing the finger and actually learning and reflecting from mistakes made.
One of the things we can get obsessed about after a break up is trying to figure out whose fault it was. We can sometimes think that by figuring out whose to blame it will make the break up hurt less and make us feel more in control. In this episode I talk about why we always want to be able to point the finger at someone (even if it's at us), why it's not actually helpful to place blame, and the difference between pointing the finger and actually learning and reflecting from mistakes made.