Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast
Every Tuesday I have a new episode of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast where I talk about a different topic as it relates to break ups, healing your heartbreak, growing in your single life, and moving into happier and healthier relationships.
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#132: Listener Episode: Losing Alcohol and Gaining Vision
On today's listener episode I interviewed Chelsea, who recently got out of her 3 year relationship with an unfaithful partner. Despite the title of this episode, the purpose is not to encourage you to stop drinking but rather to see yourself, your worth, and what you deserve in a new light, which is exactly what Chelsea did in her healing process. Towards the end of her relationship, Chelsea made the decision to go alcohol free, and in the process she gained new glasses that allowed her to finally see herself, her relationship, and her partner in a new and renewed way which ended up leading her to the decision to end the relationship knowing he was not treating her in the way she deserved. Chelsea has a very impactful story, and know it will be so valuable for so many of you!
#131: Breakups & Birthdays
For the common question of "Should I Text My Ex On Their Birthday", this episode is for you! When I first started Breakup Bestie, I knew birthdays we're tough, but truly had no idea big & important this topic would pan out to be. Throughout this episode, I talk about how to handle going through your birthday, or your ex having a birthday in the middle of your breakup. Not only does this episode pertain to birthdays, but can also be useful for other important days that might come up, such as an anniversary. Encountering these special days after a breakup are really hard, so listen in for more!
#130: The Science of Dating with Logan Ury.
Today I'm interviewing behavioral scientist, Director of Relationship Science at Hinge and author of How to Not Die Alone, Logan Ury. Logan has taken her background in behavioral science and applied it to researching and exploring what makes good dates, solid relationships, and more. In this episode we talk about common misconceptions around finding a partner, dating trends, how to make sure you're not barking up the wrong tree when it comes to dating, how to set up your dating profile in a way that serves what you're looking for and more!
Get a copy of How Not To Die Alone here
#129: The Breakup Healing Process.
In today's episode, let's talk about the breakup healing process. This episode runs hand and hand with the official release of my first book, The Breakup Workbook that is available today! Throughout the book there are almost 100 different writing exercises to complete from the beginning to end season of your breakup. It's so impactful to me to be able to share with you all my advice in a book that fits into your hands. In honor of launch day, I wanted to use this episode to out line the process I take people through when they're going through a breakup. Tune in to learn more about my new book, and the breakup healing process!
Order your copy of The Breakup Workbook here!
#128: Listener Story - Finding Yourself Again
On today's episode, I got to talk with Kylie who is a 29 year old therapist who shares her story of finding herself again after her breakup and divorce. Kylie was with her now ex-husband since she was 19 years old, they we're married, and share a daughter together. This episode covers a lot of things, including navigating divorce, the process of coparenting, and has a great perspective of why her breakup happened, and what worked and didn't work while navigating her breakup . The main thing she talks about is the fact that she was in a very dependent relationship with her ex, and how empowering and freeing it was to finally find her own feet. Learning to love herself again, do things with herself, and spending time alone.
#127: The Experience of Grief with Krista St. Germain
On today's expert episode I am talking to Krista St. Germain who is a master certified life coach, post-traumatic growth and grief expert, a widow, and a mom. I've been wanting to get an expert on grief for awhile now, being such a misunderstood topic that we know so little about. Krista went through her own extremely heartbreaking experience 6 years ago, losing her husband and over the course of the following years she wanted to help other widows going through the same thing. This episode will help give you validation for your feelings, and is certainly relatable to not only widows but anyone experiencing grief. Absolutely loved getting to interview Krista, and I know you will all love it too.
Find more on Krista here: Krista's Website - Coaching with Krista
#126: The Next Person You Date After A Breakup
I titled this episode "the next person you date" and discuss some of the stumbling blocks & experiences that tend to happen with the next person you date after going through a breakup. The biggest theme on this topic is that consciously or subconsciously we tend to put a lot of pressure on the next person you date after a breakup, and compare everything they do to your ex - but that it isn't an indicator on how your love life is going to turn out.
#125: Sex After Breakups with Sex Therapist Vanessa Marin
On today's episode, I got the opportunity to interview Vanessa Marin, a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy. Her main goal is to help others stop feeling weird about sex, and start making it more fun. Throughout this episode, Vanessa talks more about sex as it relates to breakups: Is it normal to cry after the first time you have sex with someone new? Is it normal to feel like you're having sex for the first time after a breakup? Is it normal to feel like you won't ever be attracted to anyone else? We also talk about how to separate sex from your ex and how to use your past experience as a learning and growth opportunity. I loved getting to talk with Vanessa and dig deep into this topic, and know you’ll love it too!
Connect with Vanessa at:
Instagram: @vanessamarintherapy
#124: Breakups With Unfortunate Circumstances
On today's solo episode, we are talking more in depth about breakups due to unfortunate circumstances (i.e. addiction, mental health issues, relocating, family disapproval). How do you wrap your head around the relationship being great, except this one thing getting in the way? How do you wrap your head around the relationship being great, except this one thing, this one unfortunate circumstance? How to let that go, and how to move past that reason not feeling valid.
#123 Listener Episode with Mary: When Your Ex Leaves The Door Open
On today's listener episode, I got the opportunity to talk with Mary who is 26 and going through her first heartbreak. She was devastated by her breakup, but was able to get to a place where she understood it wasn't about her or something she did, her ex just wasn't capable of committing to a relationship. In Mary's breakup, her ex left the door opening saying things like "right now it can't work" or "right now we can't have a future together" leaving hope for an unknown future and a lot of emotional limbo. In this episode she talks about how she went months being unsure of the future she had with that person, and the toll that took on her, as well as tips for you in healing and how she navigated that process and came out stronger on the other side.
#122: Breaking up with your ex's family
On today's solo episode, we're talking about the indirect impacts that come from a breakup including the loss of your ex's family. In the event of a breakup you don't just lose one person close to you - but also in most cases, their family as well. Throughout the episode I talk more about how there is a mourning period and grieving process that happens, and how its okay to be sad for losing that relationship. Can you stay connected with your ex's family? How do you move forward from feeling like you lost them too? If these are questions you're asking yourself - tune into this episode for more.
#121: Eat, Pray, FML with Gabrielle Stone
Welcome to another expert episode of the podcast! On today's episode I got the opportunity to talk with Gabrielle Stone, the best selling author of the book Eat, Pray, FML as well as the host of the FML podcast. Gabrielle's story from beginning to end is riveting in itself, filled with a lot of heartbreak, but along the way she learned a lot of valuable lessons she is able to share with us throughout today's episode. Along with sharing her story, she also gives tips and tricks on self-love, and self-care in her healing process. I know you all will love Gabrielle and hearing her story as much as I did!
#120 What Does It Mean
On today's solo episode we are talking about what does it mean when my ex does blank? I shared this question on my Instagram last week and got SO many responses in such a short time and thought this would be a great episode to touch on. Ultimately, what does it mean when my ex does blank? It means very little to nothing about you, and thats the moral of the story. When your ex does something, takes action, or inaction - it's not personal, and we can't make it mean something about us. Throughout this episode we talk about different responses that came from this question, how to not take every action or inaction personal, and how to continue moving on and focusing on your overall healing in your breakup.
#119 When You Can’t Stop Social Media Stalking
On today's solo episode, we are re-visiting the topic of social media stalking your ex. We know it's not great to be obsessed with looking at your ex's social media while going through a breakup, but thats a lot easier said than done. What do we do when we can't stop looking? No one is here listening to hear the advice of "just don't look", so on today's episode we are diving into my methodology why we find ourselves doing this, and different ways to stop to aid with your overall healing.
#118 Listener Story Maggie: It’s Okay to Have Needs
On today's listener episode, I got to interview Maggie who got out of a year and a half relationship back in November. With this being her first serious relationship, she didn't have a lot of context on what a "normal relationship" looked like. We talk about her journey in learning that it's OKAY to have needs. Having and expressing needs in a relationship shows self-confidence, self-worth, and self-esteem. Tune in to hear more about Maggie, her story, and her process of healing from her heartbreak.
#117 Anxiously Attached with Jessica Baum
On today's expert episode, we are talking about anxious attachment style with seasoned psychotherapist and couples counselor, Jessica Baum. We've talked about attachment theory before on the podcast, but Jessica elaborates more and talks about anxious attachment in relationships. How you can exist in a peaceful, grounded relationship even as an anxious person. We tend to feel like if we have an anxious attachment style that we are doomed in future relationships, but Jessica talks about all the things we can do on individual levels and within our support system outside of our relationship.
Tune into this episode to learn more, and check out Jessica's book Anxiously Attached.
#116 Do Ex’s Always Come Back?
On today's solo episode we are talking about the topic of Do Ex's Always Come Back? Some of the unhelpful advice we sometimes hear on social media, is "they always come back", but this isn't always the case. Throughout this episode we will dive into some of the reasons ex's do come back, as well as why they don't. You attract what you promote, so often times the fact that your ex hasn't come back means you've outgrown them in a good way.
#115 Breakup Hot Takes with Shaun Galanos
On today's episode, I got the opportunity to talk with Shaun Galanos, a VERY highly recommended and requested guest! We are calling this episode Breakup Hot Takes, where we talk about all of Shaun's takes on different things we like to talk about here at Breakup Bestie including being friends with an ex, the no contact rule, boundaries, etc! Loved getting to hear Shaun's take on these topics, and know you will too!
#114 Navigating Divorce with Divorce Attorney Nicole Sodoma
On toady's expert episode we are talking all about divorce with divorce attorney Nicole Sodoma. Nicole has an interesting perspective, as a divorce attorney and having gone through one herself, and we are thrilled to have her here on The Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast as an expert guest. Throughout this episode we talk about the process of going through a divorce, coparenting, the logistics of going through a divorce, how you can maintain your boundaries and no contact while sharing children and needing to see each other during certain circumstances, etc. If you are someone who is in the middle of a divorce, or is about to go through a divorce I highly recommend this episode!
Check out Nicole's Book "Please Don't Say Your Sorry" for more empowering advice, with a little added side of humor. Whether you are looking for advice on how to better your marriage, are considering separation, or find yourself knee-deep in divorce, this book has something for you.
#113 Why Your Ex Was Mean Post Breakup.
On today's solo episode I wanted to cover a question I get a lot on our Thursday Q&A that we do over on my Instagram page @yourbreakupbestie. When your ex is mean to you post breakup it feels awful, and it's a fair question to want an answer to, and to feel confused about. There are a lot of variations of this situation whether they are cold during the breakup, or after it hurts regardless. Breakups are really shocking and hard no matter what, but if this is something that happened to you in the midst of your breakup - tune in as we dive into more.
