Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast
Every Tuesday I have a new episode of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast where I talk about a different topic as it relates to break ups, healing your heartbreak, growing in your single life, and moving into happier and healthier relationships.
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#126: The Next Person You Date After A Breakup
I titled this episode "the next person you date" and discuss some of the stumbling blocks & experiences that tend to happen with the next person you date after going through a breakup. The biggest theme on this topic is that consciously or subconsciously we tend to put a lot of pressure on the next person you date after a breakup, and compare everything they do to your ex - but that it isn't an indicator on how your love life is going to turn out.
#125: Sex After Breakups with Sex Therapist Vanessa Marin
On today's episode, I got the opportunity to interview Vanessa Marin, a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy. Her main goal is to help others stop feeling weird about sex, and start making it more fun. Throughout this episode, Vanessa talks more about sex as it relates to breakups: Is it normal to cry after the first time you have sex with someone new? Is it normal to feel like you're having sex for the first time after a breakup? Is it normal to feel like you won't ever be attracted to anyone else? We also talk about how to separate sex from your ex and how to use your past experience as a learning and growth opportunity. I loved getting to talk with Vanessa and dig deep into this topic, and know you’ll love it too!
Connect with Vanessa at:
Instagram: @vanessamarintherapy
#124: Breakups With Unfortunate Circumstances
On today's solo episode, we are talking more in depth about breakups due to unfortunate circumstances (i.e. addiction, mental health issues, relocating, family disapproval). How do you wrap your head around the relationship being great, except this one thing getting in the way? How do you wrap your head around the relationship being great, except this one thing, this one unfortunate circumstance? How to let that go, and how to move past that reason not feeling valid.
#123 Listener Episode with Mary: When Your Ex Leaves The Door Open
On today's listener episode, I got the opportunity to talk with Mary who is 26 and going through her first heartbreak. She was devastated by her breakup, but was able to get to a place where she understood it wasn't about her or something she did, her ex just wasn't capable of committing to a relationship. In Mary's breakup, her ex left the door opening saying things like "right now it can't work" or "right now we can't have a future together" leaving hope for an unknown future and a lot of emotional limbo. In this episode she talks about how she went months being unsure of the future she had with that person, and the toll that took on her, as well as tips for you in healing and how she navigated that process and came out stronger on the other side.
#122: Breaking up with your ex's family
On today's solo episode, we're talking about the indirect impacts that come from a breakup including the loss of your ex's family. In the event of a breakup you don't just lose one person close to you - but also in most cases, their family as well. Throughout the episode I talk more about how there is a mourning period and grieving process that happens, and how its okay to be sad for losing that relationship. Can you stay connected with your ex's family? How do you move forward from feeling like you lost them too? If these are questions you're asking yourself - tune into this episode for more.
#121: Eat, Pray, FML with Gabrielle Stone
Welcome to another expert episode of the podcast! On today's episode I got the opportunity to talk with Gabrielle Stone, the best selling author of the book Eat, Pray, FML as well as the host of the FML podcast. Gabrielle's story from beginning to end is riveting in itself, filled with a lot of heartbreak, but along the way she learned a lot of valuable lessons she is able to share with us throughout today's episode. Along with sharing her story, she also gives tips and tricks on self-love, and self-care in her healing process. I know you all will love Gabrielle and hearing her story as much as I did!
#120 What Does It Mean
On today's solo episode we are talking about what does it mean when my ex does blank? I shared this question on my Instagram last week and got SO many responses in such a short time and thought this would be a great episode to touch on. Ultimately, what does it mean when my ex does blank? It means very little to nothing about you, and thats the moral of the story. When your ex does something, takes action, or inaction - it's not personal, and we can't make it mean something about us. Throughout this episode we talk about different responses that came from this question, how to not take every action or inaction personal, and how to continue moving on and focusing on your overall healing in your breakup.
#119 When You Can’t Stop Social Media Stalking
On today's solo episode, we are re-visiting the topic of social media stalking your ex. We know it's not great to be obsessed with looking at your ex's social media while going through a breakup, but thats a lot easier said than done. What do we do when we can't stop looking? No one is here listening to hear the advice of "just don't look", so on today's episode we are diving into my methodology why we find ourselves doing this, and different ways to stop to aid with your overall healing.
#118 Listener Story Maggie: It’s Okay to Have Needs
On today's listener episode, I got to interview Maggie who got out of a year and a half relationship back in November. With this being her first serious relationship, she didn't have a lot of context on what a "normal relationship" looked like. We talk about her journey in learning that it's OKAY to have needs. Having and expressing needs in a relationship shows self-confidence, self-worth, and self-esteem. Tune in to hear more about Maggie, her story, and her process of healing from her heartbreak.
#117 Anxiously Attached with Jessica Baum
On today's expert episode, we are talking about anxious attachment style with seasoned psychotherapist and couples counselor, Jessica Baum. We've talked about attachment theory before on the podcast, but Jessica elaborates more and talks about anxious attachment in relationships. How you can exist in a peaceful, grounded relationship even as an anxious person. We tend to feel like if we have an anxious attachment style that we are doomed in future relationships, but Jessica talks about all the things we can do on individual levels and within our support system outside of our relationship.
Tune into this episode to learn more, and check out Jessica's book Anxiously Attached.
#116 Do Ex’s Always Come Back?
On today's solo episode we are talking about the topic of Do Ex's Always Come Back? Some of the unhelpful advice we sometimes hear on social media, is "they always come back", but this isn't always the case. Throughout this episode we will dive into some of the reasons ex's do come back, as well as why they don't. You attract what you promote, so often times the fact that your ex hasn't come back means you've outgrown them in a good way.
#115 Breakup Hot Takes with Shaun Galanos
On today's episode, I got the opportunity to talk with Shaun Galanos, a VERY highly recommended and requested guest! We are calling this episode Breakup Hot Takes, where we talk about all of Shaun's takes on different things we like to talk about here at Breakup Bestie including being friends with an ex, the no contact rule, boundaries, etc! Loved getting to hear Shaun's take on these topics, and know you will too!
#114 Navigating Divorce with Divorce Attorney Nicole Sodoma
On toady's expert episode we are talking all about divorce with divorce attorney Nicole Sodoma. Nicole has an interesting perspective, as a divorce attorney and having gone through one herself, and we are thrilled to have her here on The Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast as an expert guest. Throughout this episode we talk about the process of going through a divorce, coparenting, the logistics of going through a divorce, how you can maintain your boundaries and no contact while sharing children and needing to see each other during certain circumstances, etc. If you are someone who is in the middle of a divorce, or is about to go through a divorce I highly recommend this episode!
Check out Nicole's Book "Please Don't Say Your Sorry" for more empowering advice, with a little added side of humor. Whether you are looking for advice on how to better your marriage, are considering separation, or find yourself knee-deep in divorce, this book has something for you.
#113 Why Your Ex Was Mean Post Breakup.
On today's solo episode I wanted to cover a question I get a lot on our Thursday Q&A that we do over on my Instagram page @yourbreakupbestie. When your ex is mean to you post breakup it feels awful, and it's a fair question to want an answer to, and to feel confused about. There are a lot of variations of this situation whether they are cold during the breakup, or after it hurts regardless. Breakups are really shocking and hard no matter what, but if this is something that happened to you in the midst of your breakup - tune in as we dive into more.
#112 Overcoming a Blindsided Breakup with Natasha B.
On today's listener episode I got the opportunity to talk with Natasha B. Natasha went through a breakup about 7 months prior to our interview after being with her partner for 2.5 years. Her breakup came unexpected and without closure, which is such a good example and situation of how you can put so much into a relationship and do so many things right - but can't fix a relationship that isn't with the right person. She talks about her journey of how she came to realize that, and in turn move on from that. In her breakup, Natasha doesn't follow the No Contact Rule - which is something I talk about often, but it's a great opportunity to hear from someone who did have contact with their ex throughout their breakup and how that factored into her overall healing process.
This is such a great episode on starting fresh, and a real & true example of overcoming struggle and heartbreak.
#111 Breakups Due To Mental Health Issues
On today's solo episode, we are talking about breakups and mental health. As a disclaimer for this episode, I am not a therapist and I am not a psychologist, but am just here to share my personal experiences. In this episode, we talk about different things that we can control and what we can't in regards to mental health in relationships & breakups, how mental health issues influence our relationships, and how it's not your fault or responsibility to heal or fix anyone.
#110: The Physical Effects of Heartbreak with Florence Williams
On today's episode I had the opportunity to interview Florence Williams, journalist, author, and podcaster. Florence specializes in the physical and scientific effects of our body when experiencing a breakup. She talks about what is going on in our body, and how our brain is responding to the pain we are feeling. We can all relate and understand that there is something physical happening, through the immense pain we are experiencing through our heartbreak. She talks more in-depth about how our immune system is impacts, what happens in our brain, and how loneliness feels physically & painfully uncomfortable. Just a great episode, with incredible information - tune in to learn more!
#109 The Difference Between Men and Women
On today’s solo episode, we are talking about the differences between men & women going through a breakup. There are so many stereotypes and myths about how men and women experience breakups so differently, but since running Breakup Bestie and hearing more stories and experiences from the male side - it’s become so clear how similarly the experiences truly are.
#108 Toxic Relationships with Dr. Heidi Brocke
On today's episode I got the opportunity to interview expert Dr. Heidi Brocke who is a toxic relationship awareness and healing specialist. After spending a long time in a narcissistic and toxic relationship herself, she now coaches others in identifying their own toxic relationships and how to get out of them. On today's episode we talk about what a toxic relationship is, coming out of a toxic relationship, and what the difference is between abusive & toxic.
#107 Never Getting An Apology
On today's solo episode, we are talking about never getting an apology from your ex. This topic is tough because at the end of the day, we can't force an apology out of our ex - but that doesn't make it any less difficult to deal with in break ups. Things we cover in this episode are how to move on when you deserve an apology but don't get one, why you shouldn't wait for an apology, and how to deal with the emotions of anger and resentment over not getting the apology you deserve.
