Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast
Every Tuesday I have a new episode of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast where I talk about a different topic as it relates to break ups, healing your heartbreak, growing in your single life, and moving into happier and healthier relationships.
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Heal Your Heartbreak Episodes
#98 Listener Story: When Your Ex Can’t Commit.
On today's listener story, I interviewed Elaina who was a former coaching client of mine! I got to see her at the height of her heartbreak, and now how far she's come. Elaina is 32 years old, from Brooklyn, New York and she shares her story about how she was in a situationship for a year that ended up evolving into a relationship and how it finally ended when they realized it was going to go anywhere. We dive further into the shock and anxiety that can evolve when you're in a relationship with someone who can't commit, and how she was able to make sense of it all without personalizing it. I am such a big fan of Elaina, and she does such a great job of opening up about how she worked through this heartbreak, and know this episode will be so helpful for our listeners.
#97 Therapy + Break ups
On today's solo episode we are talking about therapy + break ups. I talk about the importance of therapy, how beneficial it can be, and how to get the most out of your sessions. I know going to therapy can be scary and intimidating for some, so I wanted to share what blocked me from seeing a therapist in the past, but also how making the decision to go was so helpful for healing. Going through a break up is hard, as most of you know - but going to therapy helped me with my feelings, seeing my behavior pattern from an outside perspective, and how to be more in tough with my intuition. My hope for this episode is to help you get the confidence to go to therapy, and to understand how beneficial it can be!
#96: Break Ups After 30 with Lisa Cleary
On today’s episode I got the opportunity to chat with Lisa Cleary. Lisa is a tough love self-help writer with a focus on relationships and breakups, mindset, and goals. Her debut book is: How to Survive a Breakup: When all of your friends are birthing their second child.
Her work has appeared in TODAY, The Huffington Post, Women's Health, The Financial Diet, Love What Matters, and more. She was a former daily health columnist for NBC. Cleary blogs for her website, www.LisaCleary.com, where she features public figures like Bravo's Rhylee Gerber from Below Deck, pop culture artist Ashley Longshore, Bravo's Rosie Pope, and more.
On today’s episode we talk about some of the challenges that we find in break ups as we get older. Lisa talks about her thoughts on the imaginary deadlines we give ourselves when it comes to settling down & having children. Needing advice or help in the healing process as you’re going through a break up at an older age, this is the perfect episode for you!
Connect with Lisa Cleary at www.LisaCleary.com or Instagram @LisaCleary3.
#95 Are you ready to move on?
On today's solo episode, I talk about how to know if you're ready to move on from your break up. I'll share some signs you might be over your ex, and dive more into the very common question of when is it the right time to start dating after a break up. This episode is not a one-size fits all, but is a helpful reminder that the final parts of the healing process happen when you start healing.
#94: Listener Story- The Cycle of Breaking Up + Getting Back Together Again
On today's listener story, I interviewed Ashley who is a podcaster and youtuber sharing her story about her relationship cycle of breaking up & getting back together again. She shares with us how she rebuilt her confidence after a hurtful & toxic relationship, and the process of learning from the relationship and what she can improve on moving forward. If you're someone that has experienced any kind of toxic relationship, one that has had a lot of back and forth, or one that has left you struggling to regain your confidence post break up this will be a great episode for you.
#93: Did you lose your identity through the break up?
On today's solo episode, we are talking about how to regain your identity after a break up. If your identity was wrapped up in your partner, or in the idea of being in a relationship which is fairly common. We will talk about how this happens, why we want to try to avoid this in the future, and how you can work on regaining your identity and relationship with yourself.
#92 Finding comedy in grief with Olivia Hill.
On today's expert episode, I got the opportunity to chat with Olivia Hill who is a stand up comedian, writer, and producer in Los Angeles. She has performed all over the country, been featured on Buzzfeed, is a member of the sketch group, Try Harder Sometimes and produces the variety show Philanthropy TBD. We talk about humor in the healing process, and how we can use this to bring light to a sad situation. Olivia talks about how to bring this into the healing processes, and why it can be helpful. This doesn't take away from the serious and sadness that comes in a break up, but gives us a new perspective on how to heal and find joy again.
#91: Stop obsessing on what your ex is thinking
On todays solo episode, we're talking about putting an end on obsessing about what your ex is thinking. Today's topic is one that I get asked a lot about, and realize that it is a very real issue for a lot of you. This can be extremely painful, and we are going to talk today about why I feel like this behavior is harmful to the healing process post-break up. Any time you choose to focus your energy on what someone else is thinking or doing, it takes away your power and can negatively impact your healing. Throughout this episode we will dive into the steps on how we can stop obsessing on what your ex is thinking and continue to heal and generate positive energy.
#90: Listener Story- Working with Your Ex
We are back with another listener story today with a former coaching client of mine, Allison. Allison is a teacher, and she talks about how she fell into a fast & intense relationship with another woman at work, that became toxic and resulted in a break up. Throughout this episode she shares about how her ex kept the relationship a secret, how the relationship ended, her testament on how to overcome the heartbreak and challenges of working with your ex, and how to heal your heartbreak and rediscover yourself after a painful break up.
#89: Your ex said "someday maybe"
In today's solo episode, the topic were tackling is if your ex said "someday, maybe". Whatever your ex said to you during your break up is probably replaying in your mind over and over again, especially if what they said included some variation of who knows, someday we might get back together. Throughout this episode we talk about how it is one of the more harmful things to hold on to after a break up, why its not something you should be hanging on to, and what to do instead.
#88: Working Through your Subconscious Beliefs with Heather Terbieten
In today's expert episode I got the opportunity to chat with my friend Heather, who is a coach for To Be Magnetic. In this episode, Heather and I talk a lot about rewiring your subconscious beliefs around relationships. She dives into the topic of manifestation, what this means, what this doesn't mean, and how you can utilize it in your healing process and day to day life while navigating your heartbreak.
Connect with Heather at heather@tobemagnetic.com
#87: Situationships
What is a situationship? In a situationship, the other person is getting ALL of the benefits of a relationship, without actually having to commit to put in the work of a relationship. In this episode, we talk more about what a situationship is, how it differs from friends with benefits, and how to prevent situationships from happening now and in the future.
#86: Listener Story: Long Distance Relationship + Ghosting
On today's listener story, I got the opportunity to talk with Lindsey about her experience with a long distance relationship that ended in ghosting. Lindsey shares about the pain associated with her story, the actions she took throughout the situation, and how she used the tools she had available to get through her breakup gracefully to overcome such a challenging time in her life.
#85: Feeling lonely vs. missing your ex
On today's episode, we explore the difference between feeling lonely vs. missing your ex. It's completely normal to miss your ex following a break up, but it's important to separate what you miss about your ex versus what you just miss about relationships. Throughout this episode, we will dig into identifying what you miss about your ex, the voids left by the break up, and really help you identify and distinguish the difference between missing your ex, and missing being in a relationship.
#84: Single is Your Superpower with Case Kenny
Welcome to another expert interview with the highly requested guest of the day, Case Kenny! He is the host of the New Mindset, Who Dis? Podcast, author of The New Mindset Journal, Single is Your Superpower Journal, and the Unbothered Journal. I brought Case on originally to talk about the topic Single is Your Superpower, because its such an impactful term that many of us don't fully believe in. Society tells us a lot of stories and assumptions about being single, which can be very harmful in learning how to live and love our life single. In this interview we talk mostly about mindset and mindfulness, and how in order to get to know yourself you have to be in touch with yourself in gaining self worth and finding things that make you feel good.
#83 Can you be friends with an ex?
I was asked this week to do a podcast on being friends with your ex, and with this being a topic I talk about so much I couldn't believe I didn't have an episode dedicated to this, so here we are! This is not a guide on how to be friends with an ex, but more of why I believe it's challenging to find that balance of going from being in a romantic relationship to just friends. Throughout this episode I talk more about different reasons why in the event of a break up, the request of "let's stay friends" comes up, and why I don't think it's a good idea to pursue these friendships with ex's if you're trying to heal.
#82 Listener Story: Dealing with Substance Abuse & Mental Health.
On today's listener episode, I interviewed Alexa who bravely shared her story with us about being in a relationship with someone who struggled with addiction. I know this unique episode is going to resonate with so many of you, and is such a great resource to hear a story first hand from someone who has experienced this in a relationship. Alexa shares how she has navigated the healing process and all of the tools, processes, and perspective shifts that she's been able to experience through this heartbreak.
#81 Was I asking for too much?
In today's episode I cover the question that often follows break ups of "was I asking for too much?". This commonly presents itself across my social media pages, and it stems from the idea that you feel as if you were too needy, or asking too much from your partner and that is why you are currently experiencing this heartbreak. I really wanted to clear this topic up, because 99% of the time you were not asking for too much, you were just asking the wrong person.
#80: Divorce & Coparenting with Kate Anthony
In this episode, I brought in Kate Anthony who is the host of the Divorce Survival Guide Podcast, and a certified divorce coach. Kate works specifically with women who have children who are going through divorces. She helps women to decide whether or not they should stay in their marriages or walk away, heal through a divorce, and helps them exit the relationship with a sense of grace. This episode is packed full of practical tips, and so many great tools. If you are someone who is thinking about going through a divorce, in the midst of a divorce, or well on your way through a divorce, this is the episode for you!
#79 Stages of a Breakup
Throughout this episode I'm going to be talking about the stages you might experience in a breakup. DISCLAIMER - these are not in any order, because I don't want someone listening to feel like something is wrong with them, or feeling anything incorrectly. There is no right or wrong way to feel after a breakup and no straight lines associated with each situation. Each breakup is so different for everyone and I can't say for certain exactly how you're going to feel. You might feel all of these stages in a week, a day, completely out of order, or some not at all. Breakups aren't universal, but talking about the possibilities of emotions that might come is important for healing.